Going with the vibe (nori)
Overview
Nori is Japanese slang for acting to match the mood or energy of the moment without thinking deeply. "Nori ga ii" (good nori) is used as a compliment and means someone who can go along with the mood and liven things up. "Nori ga warui" (bad nori) is used for someone who spoils the mood or isn't into it.
Nori is tied to conformity, going along with the people around you. You laugh because everyone around you is laughing, and you get hyped because everyone else is hyped. It creates a sense of group unity, but it also has a side that dulls each person's judgment. "I did it on nori" is also used as an excuse for things people look back on and regret.
The risk of questions sent on nori
Questions sent on nori tend to cause trouble in question boxes. You're looking at a phone with your friends, everyone gets excited with "Let's send this," and you hit send without thinking it through. Even if it seems funny in the moment, the person who receives it might get hurt.
The feeling that "it wasn't just my decision" or "we all sent it together" can weaken a person's sense of responsibility. But you're the one who pressed the Send button. Even for a question sent on nori, the responsibility for the result lies with the person who sent it. Even when you're anonymous, your writing style and content are clues for guessing who the sender is.
Separating nori from your own judgment
Nori itself isn't a bad thing. Being able to liven things up is also a communication skill. The problem is getting swept along by nori and giving up your own judgment.
Before sending a question to a question box, stop for just 3 seconds. "Would I send this question if I were on my own?" If it's a question you'd send even without your friends, it comes from your own will. If it's a question you'd send because your friends are there, it's nori. A question sent on nori can leave regret once the vibe wears off. Those 3 seconds can help you end up with fewer embarrassing moments you'd rather erase from your past.